Έφυγες νωρίς

Η φωτεινή ένδειξη έσβησε για λίγα λεπτά κι έπεσε το απόλυτο σκοτάδι. Ένιωσες ξαφνικά ένα κρύο αεράκι να περνάει αστραπιαία από τη ραχοκοκαλιά σου. Γύριζες σαν χαμένος ψάχνοντας διαφυγή χωρίς να βλέπεις τίποτα. Έκλεισες τα μάτια και εστίασες στις αισθήσεις σου να σε οδηγούν προς την έξοδο. Νιώθεις αβοήθητος μέσα σε αυτό το άψυχο κτίριο και ο τρόμος σε κυριεύει όλο και περισσότερο. Ακούς ένα κρότο μακριά και νιώθεις την κίνηση του φρέσκου αέρα στα ρουθούνια σου. Αντιλαμβάνεσαι ότι είναι τα σημάδια για την έξοδο και ξεκινάς με αργά και σταθερά βήματα.

Ελπίζεις να μην πέσεις στις παγίδες που είχες δει πριν από κάτι ώρες σε εκείνο το μικρό δωμάτιο. Ώσπου βλέπεις ξαφνικά ένα φως μαζί με ένα δυνατό θόρυβο να έρχεται προς τα εσένα.
Σκέφτεσαι γρήγορα ότι μπορεί να έχει έρθει το τέλος και αφήνεις τα τελευταία δευτερόλεπτα σε όλα αυτά που δεν πρόλαβες να ζήσεις.

Τον τελευταίο καιρό είχες αφοσιωθεί στην τέχνη, ζωγραφίζοντας τοπία όπως σου έλεγαν οι γνωστοί που τα έβλεπαν. Εσένα σου φαινόταν  περίεργο γιατί στους περισσότερους πίνακες είχες ζωγραφίσει κάτι σχήματα που δεν θύμιζαν σε τίποτα τοπία ή ζωή. Είχες απομονωθεί γύρω στα δυο χρόνια και μετά τη δουλειά κατέληγες στο μικρό σου διαμέρισμα ζωγραφίζοντας ατελείωτα λες και σε κυνηγούσε ο χρόνος. Μέσα στους πίνακες σου αιχμαλωτίζεις όπως λες τα νυχτερινά φαντάσματα σου, τους δαίμονες. Κυριαρχούν παντού σκούρα χρώματα και όσο πιο σκούρα τόσο πιο έκφραση δείχνουν.


Είχες ζήσει πολλά παλιότερα και προσπαθούσες να τα αποφύγεις. Είχες κάνει τη ζωή σου και είσαι μόλις είκοσι και κάτι. Έχεις χορτάσει τα πάντα και έχεις βαρεθεί τα πάντα. Παρέες σε είχαν εξοστρακίσει επειδή δεν τους καταλάβαινες πλέον και είχες τόσες πολλές παρέες που καθόσουν δίπλα τους όσο έπρεπε για να μην φθαρείς... Είχες σιχαθεί το αλκοόλ και όλες αυτές που έψαχναν τη σάρκα σου στα νυχτερινά μαγαζιά. Η μουσική είχε χαθεί από τα αυτιά σου, λες και ξεπέρασες ένα επίπεδο και είχε απορυθμιστεί η άλλοτε σωστή κριτική που έδινες στο κάθε άκουσμα.
Κάπου εκεί πίσω έχεις και τις δυο γυναίκες που αγάπησες. Και αυτές κατά βάθος τις είχες βαρεθεί κι είχες φύγει από δίπλα τους χρόνια τώρα. Για κάποιο λόγο τα ένιωσες όλα ανούσια και κλείστηκες στον εαυτό σου απότομα. Πολεμούσες με τον εαυτό σου τις νύχτες τα τελευταία δύο χρόνια.

Πρωί ήταν όταν έμαθες για την κατάρα που έπεσε πάνω σου. Έτσι την ονόμασες και την πολέμησες σαν θεριό, αλλά τις περισσότερες φορές ηττημένος βγαίνεις από τέτοιες μάχες. Στην αρχή είχες υπομονή και δύναμη. Σιγά σιγά η υπομονή  έγινε αδυναμία και η δύναμη μετατράπηκε σε πόνο. Δύο χρόνια πονάς, χωρίς να το ξέρει κανείς. Ζεις κάθε μέρα σαν κανονικός άνθρωπος και φαίνεσαι τόσο δυνατός. Όταν γυρίζεις σπίτι βγάζεις τη μάσκα και δίνεις τον πόλεμο σου. Διπλός πόνος γιατί δεν τον μοιράστηκες με κανέναν και όταν το έκανες, συνειδητοποίησες ότι πάνω στην αδυναμία και τη θλίψη σου, σου ξέφυγε.
Πολλοί θα σε έλεγαν λιοντάρι και κάποιοι άλλοι θα σε έλεγαν ψυχρό, νευρικό, που δε δίνεις σημασία σε τίποτα. Δεν σε ενοχλεί πλέον τίποτα και γαληνεύεις μόνο μέσα σε αυτούς τους σκούρους πίνακες και στα χρώματα.

Τα δευτερόλεπτα πέρασαν και όσα σκέφτηκες, τώρα πια δεν έχουν σημασία. Έχεις φτάσει στην αρχή ενός τούνελ, ίσως κάποτε να περνούσαν τρένα από εδώ, κι ένα φως στο βάθος σε φωνάζει. Στο κάθε σου βήμα σταματάει ο πόνος και νιώθεις υπέροχα.
Κυλάει χωρίς να το θες ένα δάκρυ. Ένα δάκρυ που κρύβει τις πιο γλυκές αλήθειες σε όσους αγάπησες.
Αρχίζεις να νιώθεις κρύο, αλλά δεν σε νοιάζει, τουλάχιστον δεν είναι το κρύο των ανθρώπων.
Εκεί που πας θα θυμάσαι ότι ο πόνος δεν παλεύεται, και πιο πολύ η μοναξιά.

Πολύτιμοι Άνθρωποι

Υπάρχουν αμέτρητοι πολύτιμοι λίθοι, ακατέργαστοι. Άλλοι πάλι έχουν σμιλευτεί. Κάπως έτσι είναι και οι άνθρωποι. Κάποιοι είναι ακριβοί και αν είσαι τυχερός/η ίσως πετύχεις κάποιον. Δύσκολο να καταλάβεις στις μέρες μας ποιος είναι πολύτιμος γιατί υπάρχουν κι οι πλαστοί, οι κάλπικοι. Που δείχνουν ότι θέλουν να δείξουν, αλλά παραμένουν θαμποί και αν είσαι ανοιχτομάτης τους ξεχωρίζεις με τη μία.

Κι αν πέσεις ποτέ σε κάποιον πολύτιμο να έχεις τον νου σου να μην τον τσαλακώσεις γιατί εσύ θα είσαι ο κάλπικος, ο ψεύτικος. Θα σου μιλήσουν για ζωή και θα σου πουν πως να τη ζήσεις μοναδικά, απλά θα σου πουν ότι είδαν και ότι πιστεύουν. Οι πιο καθαροί θα δεις θα είναι από διαμάντι, αλλά στην περίπτωση τους είναι εύθραυστοι και τις περισσότερες φορές πληγωμένοι και θρυμματισμένοι, επειδή κάποιοι/ες τους έριξαν και έσπασαν.

Για εμένα από όλους αυτοί μου αρέσουν και μου κάνουν. Τους αποκαλώ μαύρα διαμάντια και έχω βρει ένα. Χίλια κομμάτια είχε γίνει κάποτε και όπου βρεθεί κι όπου σταθεί προσπαθεί να δει τον ήλιο για να λάμψει πάλι. Είναι η κατάρα των ημερών μας βλέπεις. Κάποιοι το λένε κατάθλιψη κι απομακρύνονται από τέτοιους πολύτιμους λίθους, εγώ πάλι το λέω απανωτές σφαλιάρες της ζωής. Μα σαν γίνεις μαύρο διαμάντι έχεις περάσει στάδια πολλά και λαμπυρίζεις μόνο για όσους το διακρίνουν. Υπάρχουν κι οι χρυσοί λίθοι, απρόσιτοι, θαρρώ να πω και ζει ο καθένας στον κόσμο του.

Αν ψάξεις για πολύτιμους λίθους, θα βρεις πολλούς. Το θέμα είναι να τους καταλάβεις και να δεις τη λάμψη τους. Ίσως να μπορέσεις να δεις κάποιον και να είσαι τυχερός. Αν και δεν θέλω να πω ποιος λίθος είμαι εγώ, θα πω στην τύχη έναν επειδή μου αρέσει το χρώμα του. Θα με χαρακτήριζα Αζουρίτη, μα δεν κολλάω στη λέξη τόσο, όσο στο χρώμα του. Έτσι κι αλλιώς όπου κι αν δω στη γη που μεγάλωσα το χρώμα του βλέπω.
Εσύ άραγε ποιος πολύτιμος λίθος είσαι;

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Μισ(ώ)γεματο

Δες θετικά με το που ξυπνάς την κάθε μέρα σου.
Είναι παράλογο να βλέπεις παντού μαύρο.
Κάπου έξω θα δεις φως, αρκεί να πέσεις πάνω του.
Άσε το κρεβάτι, την κουβέρτα και την γκρίνια και άναψε ένα τσιγάρο. Οι πρώτες τζούρες θα σε ζαλίζουν, αλλά θα δεις πιο καθαρά.
(όσοι δεν καπνίζουν, παρακαλώ προσπεράστε…)

Λες κάθε πρωί την ίδια φράση…
-Πάλι δουλειά;
Δες το σαν παιχνίδι στην ανταλλαγή χρόνου που δίνεις από τη ζωή σου για αυτό.. το χρήμα…
Σου προσφέρει αγαθά, όπως μια τζούρα καφέ…
(όσοι δεν πίνουν καφέ, παρακαλώ προσπεράστε…)

Κάθε απόγευμα γυρνάς πίσω στους τέσσερις τοίχους και κάνεις τι;
Βγες έξω και περπάτα…
Θα βρεις κι άλλους που μισούν τα γεμάτα…
αλλά επίσης μισούν και τα άδεια…
Προτίμησε το ποτήρι να το παρατηρείς και να βλέπεις μόνο δαχτυλιές…

Δες το φως ήρωα!!
Κάπου εκεί ανάμεσα θα βρεις όμορφες λέξεις και ανθρώπους. Μην τους αποφεύγεις.
Απλά βρες και ξεχώριζε τους φωτεινούληδες.
(αν δεν έβλεπες φωτεινούληδες κάπου στο 90′, παρακαλώ προσπεράστε…)

Απλά πέρνα καλά..
Ζήσε,
Απόλαυσε
και βλέπε το ποτήρι απλά με δαχτυλιές..
Αν θες πρόσθεσε και τις δικές σου…
Enjoy it…

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Ο μικρός παλιάτσος

Πού ‘σαι μικρέ μου άνθρωπε,
που με κάνεις πάντα χαρούμενο
στα δύσκολα;
Μα είσαι τόσο λυπημένος
στα μέσα σου.
Κουβαλάς τόση θλίψη,
πάνε χρόνια τώρα.
Πού ‘σαι μικρέ μου ήρωα,
που με κάνεις πάντα να γελώ;
Μα είσαι τόσο μοναχός
στα μέσα σου.
Κάθε νύχτα είμαι εδώ παρέα σου
μικρέ Παλιάτσο μου
και τις κάνεις αυτές τις νύχτες τόσο βουβές
κι αθόρυβες,
σαν παλιό κακογραμμένο σενάριο
ξεθωριασμένο και τόσο μοναδικό
Μην πονάς άλλο καλέ μου φίλε,
σε λίγο ξημερώνει
και θα χαμογελάσεις και πάλι.
Να θυμάσαι και τις μέρες βλέπω το μέσα σου.
Πού σαι καλέ μου γείτονα,
που με κάνεις τόσο περήφανο;
Μα είσαι τόσο άκακος
στα μέσα σου.
Ζητιανεύεις την τύχη σου,
πουλώντας τους χαμόγελα
και κουβαλώντας την θλίψη σου.
Πού ‘σαι μικρέ μου Παλιάτσο,
που με κάνεις ξανά να ζω;
Μα είσαι τόσο θλιμμένος
στα μέσα σου.
Ξεβάψου φίλε μου και δείξ’ τους
ένα σου δάκρυ, τόσο βαρύ
μα τόσο μοναδικό κι αλλιώτικο
αληθινό.
Σήμερα έφυγες,
μα εγώ σε βλέπω ακόμα
στο μέσα σου.
Ήταν φωτεινό και όμορφο
το τελευταίο αντίο σου,
θα το θυμάμαι πάντα.
Πού ‘σαι μοναχικέ μου φίλε,
που με ένιωθες;
Μα είσαι τόσο ξεχωριστός
στο μέσα σου.
Κοιμήσου τώρα και δες,
ανατέλλει  η πνοή σου
και κάνει τόσο θόρυβο μέσα μου.
Περίμενε με δεν θ ‘αργήσω,
απλά θα κάνω πως κοιμάμαι
για να σε δω στα όνειρα μου.
Να δω το μέσα σου.

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How to be romantic?

Make sure you treat your lady right! Here are 25 great ways for how to be romantic with your girlfriend and sweep her off her feet again.

Keeping the romance alive in any relationship can be tricky. When you get past those first few months where all you want to do is see each other, do sweet things for one another, go on awesome, inventive, adventurous dates, and, of course, have lots of awesome, inventive, adventurous sex *!*, things can start to go downhill. But if you understand how to be romantic with your girlfriend, you’ll keep the spark of romance alive.

Usually, as your relationship works out and gets better, the effort you put into being romantic with your girlfriend often dwindles. It’s funny really. The longer you date someone the stronger your relationship becomes, the more you fall deeply in love with them and appreciate them. But yet, most of us think it’s not necessary to display affections of love once we’ve won our partner over.

If you’ve been going out with a girl for 10 years, they are far more likely to be a significant and important part of your life than a girl you have gone out with for 10 weeks. Yet the 10-weeker gets all the good stuff. They get you at your best, when you willingly make the most effort. You put the most thought into how you can impress them. When you wine and dine them, buy them gifts, tell them how attracted you are to them and so on.

How to be romantic with your girlfriend

Knowing how to be romantic with your girlfriend is something to continue to strive for throughout your relationship. The great thing is it really doesn’t take that much effort to keep it up.

So often when men think of romance, they imagine grand gestures or come up with ever increasingly complicated and creative ways to impress their girlfriend. But that simply isn’t the case.

Romance comes in all forms. Sometimes it is the small, sweet, simple gestures that make the most impact. It’s easy to throw money at a situation *well, depending on whether you have any, of course!* but just remembering little things and trying to show your girlfriend how much you appreciate and love her makes your relationship happier, more meaningful, and she appreciates you more in return as well.

Of course, being romantic is easier said than done, and if you aren’t particularly good at these things, it can be challenging to think of ways to actually do so. So, with that in mind, we decided to help you out by compiling a list of 25 ways for how to be romantic with your girlfriend.

#1 Surprise her. All girls love being surprised. If you want to earn some brownie points, planning a surprise for her that you know she’ll just love is a great way to inject some romance back into your relationship. It shows her you’ve thought of her and make the effort to please her.

#2 Go on thoughtful dates. It’s very easy to make all of your dates kind of the same. If all you ever do involves dinner or a movie, why not try to spice things up a little? Think about different, unusual things you could do together. Actually put some thought into what she would like to do—the more creative and the more effort you put in, the better. 

#3 Let her have the remote. Do you tend to be a bit of a remote hog? Instead of making her watch sports all evening—again—why not let her pick something to watch? Even if you hate it, this little gesture shows her you care.

#4 Cook for her. Girls love it when guys cook for them. Even if you aren’t the best chef in the world, cooking for her demonstrates you want to be romantic. She’ll think it’s super sweet, whatever the outcome!

#5 Clean the house. Romantic gestures don’t always have to be about wining and dining someone. If she always nags you to do the dishes or the laundry why not surprise her one day and make an effort to get the house looking great?

#6 Give her a massage. A massage costs you nothing and is a lovely, intimate, and romantic way of showing appreciation to your girlfriend.

#7 Give her love tokens. A cute and romantic gesture could be to give your girlfriend little tokens of your affection. She’s bound to find that really cute!

#8 Make sure you spend quality time together. Sometimes romance is just about making sure you make time for one another. It can be all too easy to get into a rut where you spend time together, but it’s just sitting on the sofa and staring at the TV. Instead, make an effort to do fun things together and actually have proper conversations.

#9 Tell her she’s beautiful. Complimenting her really goes a long way to make her feel attractive and loved.

#10 Be interested in what she says. If you want to know how to be romantic with your girlfriend, take interest in her life. Make sure you find out about her day, take in what she tells you, and show interest in what she says. In a relationship, it is so important to feel listened to and understood.

#11 Be expressive with your emotions. Being romantic is all about expressing your feelings for someone. So, don’t be shy about telling her how she makes you feel.

#12 Don’t be afraid of affection. Being affectionate—holding hands, cuddling up to one another, etc.—is sometimes all it takes to inject romance back into your lives.

#13 Have fun together. Romance doesn’t have to be serious, it can be fun too! Plan some fun and silly activities together, laugh together, and you’ll soon feel closer again.

#14 Appreciate her. Make sure she really knows how much you appreciate all the things that she does for you.

#15 Buy her little, silly gifts. Gifts don’t have to be expensive. Cute, silly things work just as well too.

#16 Leave notes for her. Leaving little love notes around the house, in her bag, or on the mirror when she takes a shower can be very romantic and are basically effort-free!

#17 Take a romantic walk together. A walk at sunset, first thing in the morning, or in the rain can be a lovely way to spend some time together.

#18 Go for a candlelit meal. Of course, there is nothing wrong with going back to the tried and tested methods either! 

#19 Be spontaneous. It can be so easy for your relationship to get into a rut. Change that by doing something completely spontaneous and romantic. She’s sure to love it if you do.

#20 Cup her face when you kiss. Little gestures such as cupping her face and kissing her softly makes her heat melt.

#21 Be protective. If you want to know how to be romantic with your girlfriend, make her feel safe around you. Girls love it when they feel safe and secure when out with their man, so don’t be afraid to show her she’s protected with you around.

#22 Take the day off together. Why not plan a whole day of fun, quality time together?

#23 Stick to your plans. Girls understandably get frustrated if their man keeps promising them the world only to let them down time and time again. Make sure if you make romantic plans, you stick to them.

#24 Have a picnic together. A picnic on the beach or the park in summer can be super romantic. If the weather is rubbish just have a picnic on your living room floor!

25 Talk about the future. Sometimes a lady just wants to know you have a future together, so if you feel the same, let her know by making future plans.

These 25 things help your girlfriend feel loved and appreciated. So, if you’re looking for ways on how to be romantic with you girlfriend, use the above list to help give you some inspiration. Good luck!
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The key to happiness

Everyone is always looking for more happiness. How can your life be improved? What can you do to make it easier and more fun? Finding the key to happiness is sometimes all some people ever do. They search and search and still don’t find it.

And that’s because it’s not as simple as a single element. One thing can’t really make or break your life. Life is a combination of all sorts of things and there’s not just one thing that’ll make every single person happy. It differs depending on who you are as a person.

Things people think cause happiness that really don’t

There’s way too much misunderstanding when it comes to what makes people happy. Sometimes we put forth so much effort to attain things we think will bring us happiness only to realize our desire for those things makes us unhappy. 

#1 Money. Many of you have probably heard the saying, “money doesn’t buy happiness.” It’s true. It’s not just something your parents tell you so you don’t strive to be only rich. Money can buy you things, but those things won’t make you truly happy if you’re not.

#2 Friends. Yes, having friends helps and they can make you happy but when it comes to friends, more is not merrier. You don’t have to measure your level of happiness by how many friends you have. Instead, aim to have a few high-quality friends instead of a lot of lame ones.

#3 A partner. Too many people focus on happiness being about having a significant other. That doesn’t make you happy. If you truly don’t like your life and aren’t happy at all, having someone to cuddle at night won’t make a difference. You should be happy by yourself, first.

What’s the key to happiness?

In truth, happiness isn’t something that can just be unlocked with a single “key.” There are many different things that can lead you to a great life. You just have to be willing to accept them.

If you really want to have a better life and be happy, these are some of the truths you must face, and then act on. Hopefully these can help you realize the important things in life.

#1 Negativity has to leave. There’s just too much of it out there. If you surround yourself with negative people and are always thinking in a negative way, your life will be less happy.

You’re basically always bringing down any happiness you have. With negativity present, even the happy moments aren’t as great as they could be. So ditch all the negative people so you can have more joy in life. 

#2 You have to love yourself. If you’re not happy with who you are, you won’t really be happy in life. That’s just how it works. You are the biggest part of your life and if there’s not happiness within yourself, you’ll have a hard time enjoying life. Work on loving yourself first.

#3 Hobbies and passions are necessary. Everyone needs at least something they love to do. Passion is incredibly important and some might say it’s truly the key to happiness.

But it’s not enough to just be passionate about something. You also really have to act on those passions. If you just love doing something and never do it, it won’t help in your quest for happiness.

#4 Live in the moment. Stop thinking about what you have to do tomorrow or next week or next year, even. Live in the moment you’re in. You won’t get it back. If you’re always looking ahead or behind you, you’ll never be able to appreciate all the things you have right now.

And when you can’t appreciate the current moment, you won’t be happy. Then, when you’re not living in the moment later and looking back on other times, you’ll realize how unhappy you were. It’s a cycle that has to end if you want to find the key to happiness.

#5 Be thankful for what you do have. This day and age is all about wants. We want so much but we want it handed to us. And when we finally get something we want, we simply desire the next, better version.

What about what you have? You have so much going for you that you just don’t even see because you’re blinded by what you could possibly have in the future.

#6 Always be working toward something. As humans, we always want to be working toward something that’ll bring us happiness. We’re goal-oriented people. If you have nothing to work for, your life will feel a little less happy.

You might find that your life lacks meaning. A quick way to fix this is to just make some goals and start working toward them every day. 

#7 Give back when you can. Sometimes the key to happiness is all about unlocking it in other people. Adding happiness to someone else’s life can be all you really need to feel happy yourself. Turning someone else’s day or even life around can do a lot more for your own happiness than you think.

#8 Recognize those who are important to you. We hardly appreciate the people we love enough. I know it seems like they already know you care about them and are thankful they’re in your life, but just say it anyway.

You never know how someone else is feeling. The people closest to you are responsible for a lot of great things in your life. Don’t ignore that. Make sure they know you appreciate them. 

#9 Stay humble. No matter what happens in your life, stay humble. Being humble and always remaining thankful will help you be happy with even the smallest of things. If you don’t remain humble, you’ll always be overreaching. You’ll always want more. And when you’re always lusting for more and better, you won’t be happy.

#10 Just do you. Stop caring about what other people think. It’s poison. Don’t worry about how happy someone else is or what someone else has. Focus on the great things in your life and on improving yourself from the inside out.

Doing this will bring you way more happiness than if you only do things because you think other people will like it. If you only do things because they’ll make YOU happy, life will be much better for you.

The key to happiness is really to just sit back and enjoy life. Live for what you do have and work hard for what you want. Being thankful and living in the moment is what happiness is all about.
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So what is true love?

It’s work. True love isn’t just about meeting someone and falling in love with them. True love is about sticking it out when times get tough. It’s working together even when you’d rather not even see that person at the moment. You might not be ready to know just what true love is all about.

Most people aren’t prepared for what true love is really like

Oftentimes, people fall in love and a month into being truly in love with someone, they suddenly can’t take it. They’re convinced it’s too hard and so it must not be true love. Make no mistake, you can be in love and have hardships within the relationship.

Love isn’t all fun and games. The initial feeling of bliss wears off and true love is more like a slow burning fire that you always have to stoke. You can’t just expect a relationship to work simply because you love each other. [Read: 10 signs of true love that might make you a believer]

What is true love?

Are you really ready to hear all that true love is? You can forget all about your fairytales and knights in shining armor. This is what true love really is and what you’ll need to know if you want to make your relationship with someone you love work.

#1 It’s supporting someone endlessly. Your partner will have dreams and hobbies. If you’re truly in love with them, you’ll support their desires, so long as they’re not harmful to you or anyone else. Even if you don’t fully understand their dreams, you still need to be there to cheer them on.

It’s not always about encouraging them when they’re succeeding, either. It’s about pushing them to keep going even when they’d rather give up because it’s their dream. This might not always be easy to do. 

#2 It’s caring for them no matter the cost. It’s unconditional love. You care for them no matter what happens. Through injury, illness, or even just hard emotional times, you need to be there for them.

Again, this isn’t something that’ll be easy all the time. Your partner could end up going through really hard times that’ll be difficult for you to stick through. But that’s true love.

#3 It’s putting away your pride to make things right. You’re going to argue. Any couple who doesn’t get into arguments at some point are either both lying or they’re not truly in love. Couples fight. Sometimes you’re going to have to bite the bullet, swallow your pride, and apologize.

And you definitely won’t always want to do this. Obviously, you’ll have to talk through your problems and then get to a point where whatever issue you had has been solved. But even then, you’ll have to put away your pride and make things right again. 

#4 It’s actively showing your affection daily. You can’t expect love to last if you’re never putting forth any effort. That fire won’t stay lit unless you stoke it and add something to help it burn.

That something is your affection. Make sure your partner knows how much you love them. Tell them every day. Show them how you feel through kind gestures. You need to make sure they feel appreciated and loved and it’s a daily task.

#5 It’s making an effort even on your worst days. You’re going to have bad days. Some of those bad days won’t have anything to do with your significant other. It’ll be easy to lash out at them in anger simply because they’re there.

True love is about making sure you’re trying to be loving even when you feel far from it. This is really hard when you’d rather mope and seethe in silence. But you’ll have to make it work.

#6 It’s lifting their spirits when you know they’ve had it rough. You love your significant other. You want to make sure they’re happy and therefore, when they’re feeling down, you want to help cheer them up. This means you’ll have to try and try hard to make them feel better when they’re down. Because there will be a time when they’re in low spirits. 

#7 It’s being selfless when they need you to be. True love is not selfish. You have to put someone else above yourself at times. When your significant other is having a hard time, you’ll need to put your own needs aside to help them.

This can be really hard if you’re also not feeling that great and need someone else to take care of you. Occasionally, you’ll have to take one for the team, put your needs aside, and make sure your partner has what they need.

#8 It’s loving their flaws. Everyone has flaws. Your partner will definitely have flaws. True love isn’t about being blind to those things. Instead, it’s about loving those aspects of who they are, anyways.

If your significant other is always forgetful, you might get frustrated sometimes but overall, you’ll learn to love that about them. It’ll be a cute quirk instead of a hindrance. That’s what true love is.

#9 It’s remembering the little things. There will be a lot of stuff you’ll learn about your significant other. True love is about remembering the small, but very important, details. It’s about knowing they hate pepper on their food and making sure the waiter takes down the order right.

It’s about knowing their dog’s birthday because that animal is one of the best things in their life. Making an effort to know the small things and show that you’ve been paying attention is what true love is about. 

#10 It’s wanting the best for them even if it means less for you. Some people won’t be happy with you. It’s just the truth, as hard as that is to accept. If it’s true love you feel for them, you’ll want the best for them even if that means you’ll be unhappy.

I’m not saying you should give in to someone else’s will just because you love them. This means that you’ll have to make some sacrifices for true love. But if it’s with the intent to make the other person happy, it’s really love.

What is true love? Now you know that true love might not always be butterflies in your stomach and stolen kisses. It takes a lot more to fall and remain in true love.

Dear girl..

Dear girl, 

I know you still love him and there's always going to be a part of you that will, but just because you love him doesn't mean you should be with him. 

Just because you care about him doesn't mean he's good for you. 

Just because it feels right with him doesn't mean he'll make you happy. 

You know you're supposed to move on, but it's not that simple at the same time and that's understandable because how do you easily walk away from someone you've had your heart set on for so long, especially if he's the one who broke it and it feels like he's the only one who could fix it? 

Listen, I get it. It's hard to be just friends with someone who's seen your heart and it's even harder to go back to being strangers with someone who's seen your soul, but you know what's the hardest thing to do? 

Finding happiness again after being lost in someone else for so long and if you were to go back to where you lost your happiness, you'll never find it. 

The easy thing to do is to go back to what feels familiar and comfortable, but sometimes what feels familiar and comfortable will only hurt you if you stay. 

So please, be more selfish and put yourself first for once because that's the only you'll be able to love yourself.

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